NO REGERTS! – June 26

June 26, 2014

“The plan of the heart belong to man, but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord.  All the ways of a man are pure in his own eyes, but the Lord weights the spirit.  Commit your work to the Lord and your plans will be established.” Proverbs 16:1-3

I cannot resist a laugh at the irony implicit in a “No Regerts” tattoo.regerts-e1336608292682

The irony does not lies in an individual’s declaration of regret freedom becoming yet another regret.

I do not know of anyone who wants to live with regrets. No one starts their day with a desire to fill it with regrets. Being without regrets is not a matter of determination.  A life without regrets is a life never lived.

A statement that you will not feel sad, repentant, or disappointed about circumstances that have not worked out, the loss associated with poor decisions, or the indecision of a missed opportunity, seems naïve. It might seem possible for a twenty-nothing to think that life can be lived without regrets but as a forty-something I cannot imagine a life free of regrets.

The denial of regret simply creates a regert – regret in disguise.

Regrets are an inevitable part of the human experience. A life without regrets requires perfection. I am far from perfect and as a result my life is full of regrets.

I regret responses to criticism…victory…conflict…praise…rejection…
I regret selfish treatment of people.
I regret a failure of leadership in the Church and business.
I regret working too hard and not hard enough.
I regret misplaced trust placed in key people.
I regret starting and never finishing.
I regret never starting.
I regret not being the husband I want to be.
I regret not being the father I want to be.
I regret not being the friend I want to be.

The majority of my regrets can be traced to the sin that still dwells within me. My life is full of regrets because I am a sinner. To deny my regrets is to deny my sin. The denial of sin will only result in another regret, which makes it a regert.

used-2013-07-18-no-regerts-alkhall-sobriety-recoveryRegrets are not an emotion to deny. Regrets are a reminder of our continuing need of a savior. The acknowledgement of regrets leads us to the gospel.  I trust God; that He has a plan. I trust  He will take all that I regret and make something good out of them. I trust that there will be a day when I will see all my regrets for what they are in God’s plan.

However, that is an act of faith because I currently cannot see His plan.

Therefore, I find freedom from regrets by faith and a refusal to change them into regerts.
I glorify God in my regrets.
I have been forgiven through Christ of the sin associated with my regrets.

I praise God in my regrets.
His plan is not dependent upon my perfection.

I hope in God because of my regrets.
I look forward to the day when I will be truly free of regrets and regerts.

PRAYER: Father, you know all of my regrets.  You know all of my wanderings.  You know all of my sins of omission and commission.  Thank you for forgiving me.  Thank you for freeing me from my past and all that I regret.  Thank you for giving me hope.  Thank you for preparing a day in the future when I will truly be free of all regrets…and regerts. I pray this in the precious name of your Son, Jesus Christ. Amen


  1. Word well said. The regrets you listed echo words I have spoken (and regrettably will probably have cause to add to). But thanks be to God that “the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us”!

  2. God Soveriegnty is a mystery. We have choices, but He works through them. I have major regrets but the comforting thing is that our God works even through our mistakes.

  3. JD, I absolutely love this. You have put into words something I have long felt.

    We live in a culture that doesn’t want to allow us to have our regrets–even my friends rush to try to turn my regrets to regerts so that I can feel good about myself. They don’t understand that having regrets is not the same thing as wallowing in guilt, something I’ve written against more than once.

    “Regrets are not an emotion to deny. Regrets are a reminder of our continuing need of a savior. The acknowledgement of regrets leads us to the gospel.”

    As usual, you’ve taken a complex topic and distilled it down in a well worded, digestible fashion. Thank you!

  4. I always find your posts inspiring, which is why I’ve nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award! Whether or not you enjoy blogging awards, I hope you’ll be encouraged that your readers are indeed drawing inspiration from your work! (Badge and Details: http://theartisticchristian.wordpress.com/2014/06/27/very-inspiring-blogger-award/ )

  5. I like what you say: “Regrets are a reminder of our continuing need of a savior. The acknowledgement of regrets leads us to the gospel.”
    Regrets, pain and suffering are all reminders of our need of a savior. They are also reminders of the awesome gift in Jesus and thanks be to Him who gives us redemption, renewal and restoration if we allow Him to, no matter who we are or what we’ve done.
    Thanks for the great post!

  6. Great post, and thank God I knew better than to rely on a tattoo artist to spell properly. No regerts! Woohoo.

  7. Ha! I love it! I’d definitely be having some regrets after that tattoo! Great application here…

  8. Really excellent thoughts. I often say that my regrets end up leading me to some of my greatest blessings in this life, mainly because I learn from those sins and mistakes and then allow God to work through them in my life. How He does that again and again remains a mystery!

  9. ~Interesting topic ~ a cousin to shame and Jesus despised the shame. Thank you for this truth. You have an artistic way of bring the visual to your topics. Love it when you share. ~ Amen :Y

  10. True – all of it. “Regrets are an inevitable part of the human experience. ” I regret denying that it’s OK to have regrets. As a 60 something, I know more regrets than victories, but I keep putting them aside to press on. That’s the main thing – to learn from the regret, don’t repeat it, and get past it.

  11. I like this blog, well thought out

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: