Posts Tagged ‘Pornography’



September 30, 2015

“My son, keep my words and treasure up my commands with you; keep my commandments and live; keep my teaching as the apple of your eye; bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart.”  Proverbs 7:1-3

This is my attempt to retell the advice of Proverbs 7
in the context of this present age.

My son, I have some advice for you.

Pause for a time;

Hear what I have learned,

That you may receive wisdom and not pain;

That you will be guarded by knowledge and not nature.

For all that is shapely is not trim;

And not all that is buxom is natural.

Hear the truth in my words;

Value the understanding of experience.

A day will come when you will doubt the relevance of old men.

And dismiss advice as uninformed.

Therefore, settle the matter in your mind.

Decide if truth will be the foundation of your principles;

Be as familiar with her as of your sister’s image;

Know your principles as well as any intimate friend,

To keep you from the temptation of seduction.

The familiar story, you have heard.

A young man, full of naïve confidence,

Convinced of his own resolutions,

Purposefully pursues an avenue without sense.

Foolish boy who plays with indwelling fire,

Without an ability to extinguish.

He closes the door, beyond the eyes of elders.

A singular face illuminated by a screen;

Fully aware of the call echoing within;

Lying in wait.

Harmless browsing, bannered by advertising;

Images unsought sponsor a search;

Articles of the alluring allure;

Lists of the hottest ignite heat;

News of the attractive attract;

Only the simple ignore the sequence.

A swing of the door leads to a click on something dormant;

A scroll through the dormant germinates to a click on scantily cladded;

A scroll through the scantily cladded sprouts to a click on the claddless;

A scroll through the claddless blossoms to a click on the corrupt.

A slide starts with a solitary swing.

And now, O Son, listen to me,

And be attentive to the words of my mouth.

Do not believe those who claim no harm in pornography;

Do not value the famous who belittle the value of morality;

Do not credit bondage as freedom;

Do not confuse forgiveness with relevance.

This sin is written with a cursor of steel;

With an icon of diamond it carves cravings into the soul.

Cravings create a crack;

Cracks create a cleft;

Clefts keep one from the power of the One.

Everyday, you train your mind to either,

Seek the pleasure of God

Or the pleasure of flesh.

Let not your heart be turned by a door and swing;

Do not illuminate your face in privacy,

For many have been trapped

And their morality harvested;

Countless convictions have yielded to this call and compromise.

Pornography is a house along a path leading from God;

Those who travel it will never find Him.

Do not think that there are no consequences

To actions behind swinging doors.

PRAYER: Lord, I pray for all those caught in pornography.  Father, I ask that your healing and restoration will abide on all those caught in this sin who call upon your name.  Lord, keep me and my son from this hidden sin.  I ask that you will grow in us this fruit of your Spirit, self-control.  Help us to rely upon you in all things.  Help us to be aware of the danger.  Help us to be careful to love you with all of our heart, soul, and strength. I pray this in the precious name of your Son, Jesus Christ. Amen



February 12, 2015

“And he said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him.  For from within, out of the heart of man, comes evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness.  All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.”  Mark 7:20

50ShadesofGreyCoverArtI appeal to you brothers and sisters in Christ, do not watch the movie Fifty Shades of Grey. If you do not know anything about the book and movie, Fifty Shades of Grey, you may count yourself blessed.  The book, has sold more than 100 million copies and the movie adaptation will be released on Valentine’s Day.  I have not read the book and I have no plans to watch the movie.  My appeal to stay away from this latest Hollywood offering is based on the same rationale as staying away from pornography. There are many good social and relational reasons not to read or watch Fifty Shades of Grey:

It glamorizes and legitimizes both sexual and domestic violence.
It normalizes humiliation, degradation, and torture in sex.
It cultivates a rape and sexual culture.

One might imagine that those are reasons enough not to support the erotic message of Fifty Shades of Grey but that is not the basis of my appeal. Similarly, there are a lot of good social and relational reasons not to read or watch pornography:

It may shrink my brain. (Is Porn Literally Shrinking Mens Brains)
It may reprogram my brain structure and function.  (Brain Structure and Functional Connectivity Associated with Pornography Consumption)
It drives sex trafficking.  (The Connections between Pornography and Sex Trafficking)
It degrades women.  (How Porn Dehumanizes)
It may cause it not to work like it is supposed to. (Erection Problems? This May Be Why)
It may ruin my marriage. (9 Reasons Why Porn Will Ruin Your Marriage)

Those are reasons enough not to watch pornography, but that is not my reason for staying away. For me, all the physiological, social and relational rationale could be solved for both pornography and the more acceptable erotica of Fifty Shades of Grey and I still would not be able to partake for these forms of media. My problem with erotica in both its soft and hardcore forms is what comes out of me as a result of it going into my mind. I cannot watch or read that stuff without evil thoughts coming out of my heart.  It causes me to lust.  The definition of erotica is literature or art intended to arouse sexual desire.  Erotica’s purpose is to make me lust and when it does its job, evil thoughts defile me.

I don’t want to be defiled. 

Bathsheba Goes to King David I am saddened that appeals to Christians often have to be made to all those other rationales.

Have we lost our concern about being defiled?

 Have we lost our fear of sin?

Have we lost our desire to please God more than our libido?

Consider David’s lusting over Bathsheda:

A marriage was destroyed;
A husband was killed;
A baby died.

All of those are ample reasons for David not to have lusted after Bathsheda. But what if he had not gotten caught? What if all those bad results had not happened? It still would have defiled David; that result should break the heart of every child of God.

But the thing that David had done displeased the Lord.  (2 Samuel 11:27b)

Softcore and hardcore erotica produces in me evil thoughts.  Those evil thoughts that come out of my heart defile me.  Like David, that defilement displeases the Lord. That should be reason enough for anyone claiming to love Jesus to stay away from that which they know will cause the displeasure of the Lord.  I have heard many justifications for the romance end of the erotica spectrum. I am particularly skeptical of the justification that reading or viewing such romantic erotica such as Fifty Shades of Grey only arouses sexual desires for a spouse.  You are playing with fire.  We all know that the fire of passion can escape the ordained realm of marriage in an unguarded instant.  All it takes is a thought.  Why would you want to risk it?

As Christians, we have been called to One Shade of White.  We have been called to righteousness. 

Fifty Shades of Grey and all that genre’s variations are a thousand shades of defilement.  Consistent defilement is not the characterization of a follower of Christ.  We are to strive toward acceptable spiritual worship that pleases our Lord.

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.  (Romans 12:1)

Obedience to the Word of God is our easiest means of pleasing God.

If you love me, you will keep my commandments.  (John 14:15)

I appeal to you therefore, for the love of God (literally), stay away from the Fifty Shades of Grey! “If the church cannot extend grace to sexual sinners, we’ve lost the heart of the gospel. And if we cannot tell people to stay away from 50 Shades of Grey, we’ve lost our minds.”  ~ Kevin DeYoung, No Grey Area

PRAYER: Father, you know how often I have defiled myself in the cesspools of erotica. Thank you for your repeated forgiveness. Thank you for all the times that you have saved me from temptation. Forgive me for all the displeasure that I have heaped in front of you. Thank you for your continued love when my actions have not matched my intentions. Help me to walk in obedience. Give me wisdom and strength to stay away from those things that I know will cause evil thoughts to flow from my heart. Help me to abide in you.  I pray this in the precious name of your Son, Jesus Christ. Amen


LOVE DRUNK – Dec. 13th

December 13, 2012

“Why should you be intoxicated my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?”  Proverbs 5:20

This question is rhetorical. However, I think that there are many who will attempt an answer. According to an article by Extreme Tech, there are 4.4 billion page views per month on the largest porn site. That is billion (1,000,000,000) per month for only one porn site. That is three times the size of CNN or ESPN for just this one site.  This site has bursts of more than 1 terabyte per second (Tbps) of connectivity demand. To put that into perspective, there’s approximately only 15 Tbps of total connectivity between London and New York.  The demand for pornography from this one site will consume 7% of all the connectivity between London and New York.  That is just for porn from one site. The oldest profession is alive and well.

It is obvious that millions, maybe billions, think that there is an answer to this rhetorical question from Proverbs. My guess is that the majority of those searching the internet for images of “forbidden women” don’t think that it is forbidden.  They don’t see anything wrong with it – there is no shame in “looking but not touching”. Many of those probably do not have a problem with touching either. The remainder, do think that the “forbidden woman” is forbidden. Yet, they still “click” based on an irresistible draw to be satisfied.

All are seeking satisfaction to a desire in a place and manner that God did not design.

We are told God’s design in Proverbs 5:18-19:

“Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.”

So, why? Why do so many seek inebriation at the fountain of another? Unfortunately, they are just doing what comes natural. The problem is that God’s design is the opposite of what comes naturally to sinful man. Our hearts should break over the implications behind the magnitude of the pornography numbers. This world is awash in lost and sinful people who desperately need a Savior.  We should be very thankful of the mercy that God shows when he doesn’t just put an end to it immediatel, particularly when you consider the vileness of sexual sin.

Sexual sin is one of the best demonstrations of what is wrong with our hearts. Jesus told us that when you lust after a woman in your heart that you have committed adultery with her.  The reason this is true is because sexual sin, as with all sins, is a heart issue – a natural sinful heart issue.

Lust desires a person in a place and way that rightfully belongs to another. Lust is cheating on our spouse or future spouse, for those who are single, because we place this person or image in the rightful place of our spouse. However, it is more than that.

We are told that God is our bridegroom. When we desire the things of this world and place them where they don’t belong – we are committing a form of lusting. We can lust after anything; it is not limited to the human form.  When we desire this world in a place or way that rightfully belongs to God then we are cheating on God.

That makes anything that we may lust for a false god since we have elevated it into the rightful place of God Almighty.  That is idolatry.

Many people view lust and morality as self control issues, which they are at a certain level. However, the deeper issue is that of worship.  Lusting is worshiping a false god, an idol. Our modern equivalent of kneeling before an image of the goddess Venus in worship is looking upon another woman, while thinking, in my best Sling Blade voice, “Humph! Thazs nice”.  I hope you can see that lust is so much worse than a mere slip-up.  It is worship at its very core. Worship of an alternate, false god.

Our marriages are an image of our covenant relationship with God. We are to be intoxicated with the love of our spouse.   The intensity of our desire for our spouse is an example to us of what the intensity of our desire for God should be.

We are supposed to be intoxicated with the love of our God.

Seeking to be inebriated by something other than God, is whoring around on the King of kings and Lord of lords.  Please let the vileness of that sink in. Let the image of yourself being prostrate in worship beneath the worthless idol of a false god sink into your very soul. Let that thought flash through your mind the next time you are tempted to click on one of “those sites” or your eyes linger on a shapely form.

We are worshipers. We must be very careful about what temples we allow our sinful flesh to draw us into.

I hope that you can now see why this question, “Why should you be intoxicated my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?”, is truly a rhetorical question.

Let us worship the one true God with undefiled hearts in all areas but most specifically in the sanctity of our marriage relationships.

PRAYER: Lord – forgive me for worshiping idols. Forgive me of my arrogance in viewing the idolaters of the Old Testament as beneath me while I am guilty of the same sin. Lord, you are so good and gracious. Thank you for your mercy and grace. Lord, create in me a passion for my wife alone; create in me a passion for you alone.    Amen

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