February 12, 2015

“And he said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him.  For from within, out of the heart of man, comes evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness.  All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.”  Mark 7:20

50ShadesofGreyCoverArtI appeal to you brothers and sisters in Christ, do not watch the movie Fifty Shades of Grey. If you do not know anything about the book and movie, Fifty Shades of Grey, you may count yourself blessed.  The book, has sold more than 100 million copies and the movie adaptation will be released on Valentine’s Day.  I have not read the book and I have no plans to watch the movie.  My appeal to stay away from this latest Hollywood offering is based on the same rationale as staying away from pornography. There are many good social and relational reasons not to read or watch Fifty Shades of Grey:

It glamorizes and legitimizes both sexual and domestic violence.
It normalizes humiliation, degradation, and torture in sex.
It cultivates a rape and sexual culture.

One might imagine that those are reasons enough not to support the erotic message of Fifty Shades of Grey but that is not the basis of my appeal. Similarly, there are a lot of good social and relational reasons not to read or watch pornography:

It may shrink my brain. (Is Porn Literally Shrinking Mens Brains)
It may reprogram my brain structure and function.  (Brain Structure and Functional Connectivity Associated with Pornography Consumption)
It drives sex trafficking.  (The Connections between Pornography and Sex Trafficking)
It degrades women.  (How Porn Dehumanizes)
It may cause it not to work like it is supposed to. (Erection Problems? This May Be Why)
It may ruin my marriage. (9 Reasons Why Porn Will Ruin Your Marriage)

Those are reasons enough not to watch pornography, but that is not my reason for staying away. For me, all the physiological, social and relational rationale could be solved for both pornography and the more acceptable erotica of Fifty Shades of Grey and I still would not be able to partake for these forms of media. My problem with erotica in both its soft and hardcore forms is what comes out of me as a result of it going into my mind. I cannot watch or read that stuff without evil thoughts coming out of my heart.  It causes me to lust.  The definition of erotica is literature or art intended to arouse sexual desire.  Erotica’s purpose is to make me lust and when it does its job, evil thoughts defile me.

I don’t want to be defiled. 

Bathsheba Goes to King David I am saddened that appeals to Christians often have to be made to all those other rationales.

Have we lost our concern about being defiled?

 Have we lost our fear of sin?

Have we lost our desire to please God more than our libido?

Consider David’s lusting over Bathsheda:

A marriage was destroyed;
A husband was killed;
A baby died.

All of those are ample reasons for David not to have lusted after Bathsheda. But what if he had not gotten caught? What if all those bad results had not happened? It still would have defiled David; that result should break the heart of every child of God.

But the thing that David had done displeased the Lord.  (2 Samuel 11:27b)

Softcore and hardcore erotica produces in me evil thoughts.  Those evil thoughts that come out of my heart defile me.  Like David, that defilement displeases the Lord. That should be reason enough for anyone claiming to love Jesus to stay away from that which they know will cause the displeasure of the Lord.  I have heard many justifications for the romance end of the erotica spectrum. I am particularly skeptical of the justification that reading or viewing such romantic erotica such as Fifty Shades of Grey only arouses sexual desires for a spouse.  You are playing with fire.  We all know that the fire of passion can escape the ordained realm of marriage in an unguarded instant.  All it takes is a thought.  Why would you want to risk it?

As Christians, we have been called to One Shade of White.  We have been called to righteousness. 

Fifty Shades of Grey and all that genre’s variations are a thousand shades of defilement.  Consistent defilement is not the characterization of a follower of Christ.  We are to strive toward acceptable spiritual worship that pleases our Lord.

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.  (Romans 12:1)

Obedience to the Word of God is our easiest means of pleasing God.

If you love me, you will keep my commandments.  (John 14:15)

I appeal to you therefore, for the love of God (literally), stay away from the Fifty Shades of Grey! “If the church cannot extend grace to sexual sinners, we’ve lost the heart of the gospel. And if we cannot tell people to stay away from 50 Shades of Grey, we’ve lost our minds.”  ~ Kevin DeYoung, No Grey Area

PRAYER: Father, you know how often I have defiled myself in the cesspools of erotica. Thank you for your repeated forgiveness. Thank you for all the times that you have saved me from temptation. Forgive me for all the displeasure that I have heaped in front of you. Thank you for your continued love when my actions have not matched my intentions. Help me to walk in obedience. Give me wisdom and strength to stay away from those things that I know will cause evil thoughts to flow from my heart. Help me to abide in you.  I pray this in the precious name of your Son, Jesus Christ. Amen


  1. Dear JD, blessings for leaving a like on my post earlier today…much appreciated and oceans of blessings friend – thank you

  2. Reblogged this on bibleteacherorg and commented:
    Couldn’t have said it any better! Amen!

  3. What is so sad about your appeal is that you actually have to make it in our culture. I’m glad you did, but it shows us the dreadful state of the church.

  4. Reblogged this on a sinful woman forgiven and commented:
    If you’re a born-again child of God and haven’t yet come across this post, then I urge you to stop and read….and to share. We are to encourage one another, look out for one another and lovingly warn one another.
    This post isn’t just about one film, it’s about so much more than that. It’s about the desensitisation of the family of God towards what is good, acceptable and perfect in the eyes of our Lord.
    It’s about time we stopped taking advantage of grace, took a good look at our boundaries and repaired the gates if necessary!
    God bless 🙂 x

  5. Agreed!

  6. Reblogged at https://onabikeandaprayer.wordpress.com/ – very good and thought provoking. Wish more people thought like this.

  7. Reblogged this on On a Bike and a Prayer and commented:
    Thought provoking …. please read

    • Andrew – thanks for the reblog. God Bless! JD

  8. Revelation: “They (the Elect of God) are not defiled with women” to the sexual corruptions unto its core Sodom.

  9. Reblogged this on judith99blog and commented:
    I’ve heard a lot of discussion about this book and am horrified at the open door in our society to normalize pornography and sexual cruelty in relationships of married and unmarried people. The gift that God gave is being grossly perverted by the enemy of all that is good and decent. You don’t have to touch fire to know that it has destructive power if you’ve ever watched a fire consume an object. Surely it is not necessary to dive into sexually exploitive behavior to know that it is harmful. I haven’t seen or read this and am not even enticed to want to hear more than I’ve already heard on TV, radio, and internet.

    • Thanks for the reblog!

  10. Reblogged this on The Divine Life and commented:
    I was asked by a friend and colleague on Twitter why more men weren’t speaking out against this movie…I will make sure she sees this post…God bless you!

    • Thanks for the reblog

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  13. Good thoughts!

  14. I couldn’t agree more; beautifully expressed!

  15. Wonderful post. You did a great job and I hope and pray that this movie flops and that Christians will not go to see it.

    • Thank you Debbie. I have the same hope and prayer.

  16. Thanks for referencing John 14:15. Love for God is the only right motivation for abstaining from these things. I was willfully addicted to porn for quite some time, and what freed me was an enlightened understanding of the Gospel, who Jesus is, and who I am now in him. We love him because he first loved us – erotica holds satisfaction for one who is satisfied with Christ.

    • *no satisfaction*

    • Dave – I agree completely. Our love for God has to be the motivation for our obedience.

  17. Reblogged this on How to Stop Pornography Addiction and commented:
    Pornography in all forms destroys lives!!!

    • Thanks for the reblog!

      • You are very welcome. My readers deserve to see it.

  18. Thank you for a thoughtful and truthful post. I am grateful for how you wrote: “a marriage destroyed, a husband killed, and a baby died.” These are examples of how lust causes so much harm. Thanks for a great post!!

    • Dale – thanks for the comment. It would be devastating if we ever were able to calculate the damage caused by lust throughout history. Kingdoms have fallen over the destructive effects of lust. I don’t think we can warn enough. Keep up the good work with your blog. It is a valuable and vital ministry.

      • Sometimes, I forget how vital it is to speak out and fight for good. Thanks.

  19. “Consistent defilement is not the characterization of a follower of Christ.” Well said. Thank you for succinctly stating your case on this, JD. Some things we simply cannot justify and call ourselves disciples of Christ.

    • Thank you Rebeca. I think there are many in the Church who live under a false assurance because they have no one to point out to them that those who are in Christ are a new creation and a good tree that is evidenced by producing good fruit.

  20. Really great thoughts! Thanks for spelling this out for everyone. I think that as believers we definitely have to respond with grace and love in these situations. I just wrote a piece about the importance of combating darkness with light.


    • Thank you for your comment and for sharing your post.

  21. Reblogged this on JamesLordsBlog and commented:
    What should one do? I say now that Christ would ask and he will judge, choices we must all make . I will follow Joshua and do the same.

    • Thank you for the reblog

  22. I view it in the following way what one allows into the mind stays in the mind. That little seed will grow and influence ones life in so many ways. we must guard ourselves from evil , for remember Lot that good man seared his concise daily among the evil where he lived. we are called to live lives as Holy as is possible for he said be Holy for I am Holy and my spirit lives with-in you.

    • J.G. – thank you for such a great mental image. What we let into our mind are little seeds that will grow.

  23. Joseph`s words still ring true, “How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?” (Genesis 39:9)

    • David – Joseph still is such a great example for us all. Isn’t it amazing that so much has changed from the time of Joseph and we humans are still the same. There is only one cure for the sinful heart of man – Jesus Christ

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