March 3, 2013

“And Jehoash did what was right in the eyes of the Lord all his days, because Jehoiada the priest instructed him.” 2 Kings 12:2

What will be the words written on my son’s epitaph?

How will a generation who has yet to touch this earth’s soil speak of my daughter?

My children will have a legacy.  They will be known for something.  I wonder what it will be.  Every life is known for the particular fruit that it bears. What will be their fruit?

I have a specific hope for them.

We invest a lot of time instructing our kids in academic subjects.  I will be deeply satisfied if they become known for their intellect…but that is not my specific hope for their legacy.

I coach my daughter’s basketball team.  It will be a blessing if she receives a college athletic scholarship…but that is not what I hope she is known for.

My son has participated in speech competitions and done very well.  I will be very proud of him if venues are filled to hear his oration…but that is not the legacy that I pray will be his.

My children may gain all the accolades of this world.  They may climb to the top of a variety of ladders.  Their resumes may drip with awards and accomplishments.  Success may follow them like an obedient pet.

However, what have they gained if their legacy is a forfeited soul? (Matt. 16:26)

Every legacy has an origin.  The foundations of my children’s epitaphs are being formulated now.

My hope is that, Lord willing, long after I am gone, it will be said of my son, “he loved the Lord with all that he was, for all of his days, to the glory of God Almighty; he was a good and faithful servant of his Savior.”  That my daughter will be a virtuous woman of God whose remembrance brings forth smile as it is said, “she loved her Savior with all that she was, for all of her day, to the glory of God; she was a good and faithful servant of the King.’ old school

I have no control over the legacy of my children.  Their faith is a gift from God to them.  However, this is not to suggest that my wife and I’s instruction is not without importance.  Jehoiada the priest was greatly used in the life of King Jehoash by instructing the young King.  We are told in proverbs, “train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6); Instructing a child in the Lord’s ways does matter.

As Matt Chandler has said, we are stacking kindling around our children with every Bible study, every encouragement in spiritual disciplines, every time we rely upon the Word, every prayer, every example of faithfully walking in the Spirit.  All of our instruction is spiritual fuel around the base of our children’s hearts.

There is no better sound to the ears of a child of God then to hear the “whoosh” of the Spirit sparking a mighty blaze of a passion for our Savior in the heart of our children to the praise and glory of our King.

My children’s legacies have begun.  The period of influential instruction is now.  Therefore, I want to be wise and focus on instructing them in those areas that will have eternal value and will result in an epitaph that will be a pleasing fragrance to our Father.

Now is the time of diligent instruction.  It matters.

PRAYER: Father, I know that the salvation of my kids is in your hands.  I pray Lord that you will save them and keep them.  Protect them from the evil one and lead them to persevere in their faith.  Father, I know and accept the responsibility that you have given me as a parent.  I know that I am modeling to them how to follow you.  Lord, give me the wisdom, understanding, and passion to show my kids how wonderful you are.  Father, take my kids and use them for your glory.    Amen


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  3. It will all pay off as I watch some of the seeds I planted years ago bearing great fruit today. Diligence and patience and Godly wisdom beginning early on will ensure their legacy. 🙂

    • Amen!

  4. Good thoughts! I just posted something quite similiar, regarding our legacies in heaven vs. on earth (candlequill). It reminds us to be aware of our actions; that we’re planting seeds for good or bad each and every step of the way…

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    • Thank you very much. That is so kind and I appreciate the encouragement.
      God Bless!

  6. Awesome post! A great reminder of my priorities as a Dad. Thanks!

  7. As my children are reaching adulthood, I realize how important every component of scripture was that we poured into them. The watering of those seeds does produce fruit

    • Amen

  8. Reblogged this on Life and Photos by Andy.

  9. Wow. I will pray for the realization of your prayer. It is noble and right to encourage children to walk in our spiritual shoes. Peace to you and yours.

    • Thank you so very much for your prayers. To God be all the glory!
      God Bless

  10. I love what III John says, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.”

    • Amen

  11. It does matter, and with a heart and prayers like yours, I can only believe that God will give you all the wisdom you need to bring up your children to love and honor the Lord. I have 9, they are all adults now…all but one have professed Christ as their Savior with conviction and depth. That is a blessing, a beautiful miracle. There may be unexpected trials and heartaches…one was a prodigal for six years, but I always have to remind myself that I lifted each one of them up to God when they were little and He is reigning over their lives. May God bless you abundantly with wisdom and strength, and answer your heart’s prayer for your children.

    • Thank you for sharing your testimony of God’s faithfulness. Nine kids – what a blessing. Thanks for the encouragement.
      May God richly bless you and your whole family.

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