LOVE DRUNK – Dec. 13th

December 13, 2012

“Why should you be intoxicated my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?”  Proverbs 5:20

This question is rhetorical. However, I think that there are many who will attempt an answer. According to an article by Extreme Tech, there are 4.4 billion page views per month on the largest porn site. That is billion (1,000,000,000) per month for only one porn site. That is three times the size of CNN or ESPN for just this one site.  This site has bursts of more than 1 terabyte per second (Tbps) of connectivity demand. To put that into perspective, there’s approximately only 15 Tbps of total connectivity between London and New York.  The demand for pornography from this one site will consume 7% of all the connectivity between London and New York.  That is just for porn from one site. The oldest profession is alive and well.

It is obvious that millions, maybe billions, think that there is an answer to this rhetorical question from Proverbs. My guess is that the majority of those searching the internet for images of “forbidden women” don’t think that it is forbidden.  They don’t see anything wrong with it – there is no shame in “looking but not touching”. Many of those probably do not have a problem with touching either. The remainder, do think that the “forbidden woman” is forbidden. Yet, they still “click” based on an irresistible draw to be satisfied.

All are seeking satisfaction to a desire in a place and manner that God did not design.

We are told God’s design in Proverbs 5:18-19:

“Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.”

So, why? Why do so many seek inebriation at the fountain of another? Unfortunately, they are just doing what comes natural. The problem is that God’s design is the opposite of what comes naturally to sinful man. Our hearts should break over the implications behind the magnitude of the pornography numbers. This world is awash in lost and sinful people who desperately need a Savior.  We should be very thankful of the mercy that God shows when he doesn’t just put an end to it immediatel, particularly when you consider the vileness of sexual sin.

Sexual sin is one of the best demonstrations of what is wrong with our hearts. Jesus told us that when you lust after a woman in your heart that you have committed adultery with her.  The reason this is true is because sexual sin, as with all sins, is a heart issue – a natural sinful heart issue.

Lust desires a person in a place and way that rightfully belongs to another. Lust is cheating on our spouse or future spouse, for those who are single, because we place this person or image in the rightful place of our spouse. However, it is more than that.

We are told that God is our bridegroom. When we desire the things of this world and place them where they don’t belong – we are committing a form of lusting. We can lust after anything; it is not limited to the human form.  When we desire this world in a place or way that rightfully belongs to God then we are cheating on God.

That makes anything that we may lust for a false god since we have elevated it into the rightful place of God Almighty.  That is idolatry.

Many people view lust and morality as self control issues, which they are at a certain level. However, the deeper issue is that of worship.  Lusting is worshiping a false god, an idol. Our modern equivalent of kneeling before an image of the goddess Venus in worship is looking upon another woman, while thinking, in my best Sling Blade voice, “Humph! Thazs nice”.  I hope you can see that lust is so much worse than a mere slip-up.  It is worship at its very core. Worship of an alternate, false god.

Our marriages are an image of our covenant relationship with God. We are to be intoxicated with the love of our spouse.   The intensity of our desire for our spouse is an example to us of what the intensity of our desire for God should be.

We are supposed to be intoxicated with the love of our God.

Seeking to be inebriated by something other than God, is whoring around on the King of kings and Lord of lords.  Please let the vileness of that sink in. Let the image of yourself being prostrate in worship beneath the worthless idol of a false god sink into your very soul. Let that thought flash through your mind the next time you are tempted to click on one of “those sites” or your eyes linger on a shapely form.

We are worshipers. We must be very careful about what temples we allow our sinful flesh to draw us into.

I hope that you can now see why this question, “Why should you be intoxicated my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?”, is truly a rhetorical question.

Let us worship the one true God with undefiled hearts in all areas but most specifically in the sanctity of our marriage relationships.

PRAYER: Lord – forgive me for worshiping idols. Forgive me of my arrogance in viewing the idolaters of the Old Testament as beneath me while I am guilty of the same sin. Lord, you are so good and gracious. Thank you for your mercy and grace. Lord, create in me a passion for my wife alone; create in me a passion for you alone.    Amen


  1. A very good post… 😀 Thank you. It is so important to keep things in perspective–God first, our spouse second and equal to no other… I speak from the pain but know the truth… Take care!

    • Thanks for the encouragement!

  2. Yes, we are to be intoxicated with love for God. How can we then be intoxicated with love for our spouse in marriage? I think marriage should be based on friendship and love as humans, as humans living this life together to help each other to love God as the only one, at the time of death.

    • When we get God’s greatest commandments out of whack is when we find ourselves in trouble. We are told to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, and mind. The amazing aspect is that when we love God with everything that we are, it doesn’t mean we don’t love anything else. We can actually love more. I can’t do the second greatest commandment, love my neighbor as myself, unless I am doing the first one. Every marriage that I have seen that has been in trouble was due to one or both spouses loving themselves more than God and the other spouse; they weren’t doing the first or second greatest commandments. So often, we don’t think of our spouse as our neighbor. Just imagine how healthy our marriages would be if we all were loving God with all that we are and loving our spouses as ourselves… that would sure be different than the rest of the world and would bring glory to God.

  3. That puts it in perspective. This make perfect sense. We are married to God, anything or anyone we covet or lust for is cheating:( it really is a heart matter. Thanks and Praise God for this.

    • I think that when we view sin from this perspective it helps us understand why God hates it so much.

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